The Guy That Hates His Job And/Or Doesn’t Know What He Wants To Do With His Life
When searching for a man, you should always look for confidence, ambition and stability. You can do without one of these qualities but never without two.
Studies have proven that compared to women, who gain their sense of self-esteem and worth from their interpersonal relationships, men assess their value based on their job or ability to have an impact on the world. If a man feels like he isn’t being productive, he will feel like a failure. A man that feels like a failure is an extremely difficult person.
If a man hates his job from every point of view, he may not have a high level of confidence, but this same guy is stable (because he has a job) and might have an ambition to change that.
A guy that doesn’t have a job and doesn’t know what he’s going to do with his life is a guy that will be too focused on himself and too damn lazy. He won’t have the drive to tune into your needs and desires. This guy will just bring you down with his negativity and will envy you if you seem to have everything together. Don’t look for the loving and caring partner here because you’re not going to find him.
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What to do if you’re dating him right now? Do not tell him to get a job, change his job, or offer any other career or life advice. It will only make him feel more like a loser.
They key here is to make him feel better about himself in other areas of his life. The more you make him feel better, the more he’ll want to keep you around. He’ll soon realize how important you are in his life and will work to find his cause (or a better job) in order to KEEP YOU.
His “change” can take a very long time, which is why you should take him as he IS and not expect much change in the future. If you’re ok with how he is right now, you’ve made your choice, if you want a man that is ambitious, confident and stable in the new, then drop this guy and try to find someone better. If you can motivate him to change, that’s great, but if you lose ten years of your life with a lazy and confused man, don’t say you weren’t warned.
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