7 Signs you’re the real problem in your relationship

3. You stonewall your S.O.

It’s emotionally exhausting to be with someone who stonewalls you after an argument. The next time you and your boo get int a drawn-out argument about who does the most laundry or whatever else, call a timeout. Once you’ve calmed down, come up with a solution that makes sense to both of you. Don’t resort to the silent treatment, Fleming said.

“Too often I see couples freeze their partner out in silence for hours, even days, all because of a fight,” she said. “Slow down and figure out what happened the moment before your emotions hijacked your rational thinking.”