7 Signs you’re the real problem in your relationship

6. You don’t stay on topic when you argue.

It’s the ultimate argument no-no: You’re having a heated conversation about one thing, and suddenly you go rogue and bring up something that upset you years and years ago. If that sounds familiar, you may be the reason you and your S.O. can’t seem to resolve anything, Steinberg said.

“Stay focused!” she said. “Your concerns will be received better when organized and concise.”