Ways to bring your man emotionally closer to you – Create a deep, emotional bond with him and keep him from wandering. Emotional intimacy is the main component of a relationship that keeps a man invested long-term. Most older women can’t compete with 25-year-olds and 30-somethings sauntering through their husbands’ work spaces in miniskirts and push-up bras.
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But the wise older wives have something much more significant than toned bodies and flawless skin: they have years’ worth of happy marital memories, which have enhanced their ability to keep their men coming home every night emotionally fulfilled.
Here are four ways to create a deep bond between you and your man, and keep him from ever wandering, temporarily or permanently.
1. Open up to him.
Your man has to feel comfortable confiding in you. In a world where most men feel they have to act tough just to make it through the day at work or survive a night of beer and football with the guys, they really need a place where they can be vulnerable.
As a woman, you should be the one who creates that vulnerability, inviting space for him. You should create a place for him to take off his “man mask” and just be himself. We all know that men are not like women in the way we talk at length about our problems and speak directly about our feelings, but they do need an outlet for their built-up stress and negative feelings.
A woman who can create that outlet is essential to her man’s happiness and emotional health. So how do you become a safe place for your man? You make him YOUR safe place first. This includes two steps:
- You risk vulnerability with him and share with him your feelings, secrets, fears. Basically, you reveal your underbelly to him.
- You allow him to comfort you in these moments like he is your hero.
Receiving a man’s comfort is important. Surrendering to his hugs, kisses, and soothing words is essential. And even more essential is accepting his comfort graciously and with sensitivity to his ego, even if it doesn’t feel comforting. Once you start revealing your underbelly to him and allowing him to comfort you, he will start to open up about his feelings, fears, secrets, needs, and more.
Let him. Don’t talk over him or try to fix his problems by acting like his therapist. Don’t half-listen because your sister’s on the other line. Be mindful, and in a way that invites him to feel safe and heard in your presence.
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