3. Show him you adore him.
Some women are naturally open with their physical affection. They touch and caress their man (or everyone they know) lovingly, tenderly, warmly. These women are goddesses.
It’s all about loving touches that soothe the man and invite him into the connection. Please don’t be one of those women whose touches are pulling in nature. Touches that are not caresses but are more taking in their energy are not mindful touches and push men away.
Examples:
- You pull on your husband when you hug him, instead of slowly sinking into deep physical closeness with him.
- You pet your man, but your petting is tense and moves toward you, like you are trying to make him touch you back. (Your petting should move toward his direction.)
Even more important than touching him is receiving his touch. Anytime your man touches you, relax into it, like he’s a hot knife and you’re butter on its blade. Melt into his warmth. Let your muscles relax and invite his touch. Sometimes this is easy to do, like during great sex, and sometimes it is hard.
If you are mad at your man, you don’t have to force yourself to melt into his touch, but you shouldn’t jerk away like he is radiation, either. It feels so horrible to him. If you are mad and hurt, just say that you don’t want to be touched, give him a reason why, and let him back off. If he doesn’t back off immediately, you need to be firm and tell him more forcefully.
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