Having troubles in connecting with people? Having problems trying to open up to people, be it trust issues or what not, this article by Paul Timothy Mangay will definitely help you out if you read with an open mind.
Learning how to open up to people isn’t always easy. The process makes you vulnerable to the judgement of less-understanding people. And sometimes, opening up causes emotional stress to those who are not used to doing it.
Learning to open up is a part of achieving maturity. It strengthens your relationships by letting others glimpse your character and serves as an emotional cushion when faced with difficult problems. It is essential for people to overcome the fear of vulnerability.
Why some people are slow to open up to others
In life, you’ll meet two types of people. The first is an open-book person. They have little trouble sharing their thoughts and feelings to others.
On the opposite end, people who seldom reveal anything about themselves, even to closest friends and family. Which one are you?
#1 Personality. If a personality falls to the quiet, reserved, or introverted category, it’s understandable that they seldom let others know what they think or feel easily. They prefer to keep that information to themselves. Certain personality types learned how to course through life without sharing their personal feelings to others.
#2 Family and upbringing. Either you are raised by reserved, quiet parents or they established rules that forbade any form of expression. You also may have been the sole child who always played alone or had siblings whose presence overshadowed yours. Any of these factors related to upbringing may play a role on why certain people don’t open up to others.
#3 Suspicion of others due to bad experiences. Maybe what triggered cutting off communicating to society was a related traumatic experience or personal betrayal. Negative experiences related to opening up can easily cause a person to stop doing it in order to prevent the experience from happening again.
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