Realize you did nothing wrong. Asking yourself why a guy didn’t love you, why he didn’t keep his promises, or why he didn’t choose you over someone else is a futile endeavor. And yet we love to obsess on these questions. There is something to that old adage, “It’s not you, it’s me.” It IS him. You don’t know what he wants, his issues, or what he’s dealing with. For all you know, he’s gay. Maybe he has deep-seated problems with intimacy. Maybe he just doesn’t like skinny chicks — are you really going to gain 50 pounds for him? Who knows, who cares?
Focusing on the idea that if only you change, you can “win him over” somehow gives you a fleeting and false sense of control. Many things in this life are completely out of our control — including how other people feel about us.
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