5. You become more empathetic.
When you love someone, their happiness affects yours — you want the person to be happy.
Without realizing, you start putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. You become less selfish. You try to understand him or her. You try to make it work. You become more empathetic.
Having not been in a few relationships, you would not know what it feels like to care for someone so much (besides family) that you try to understand them, rather than satisfying your own needs…
To feel the emotional intensity of transferable happiness.
When a relationship fails, it’s when empathy becomes too much to handle. You no longer try to understand the other person. Your own happiness doesn’t increase when the other person’s level of happiness increases anymore. The emotional and mental compromise for the person’s happiness start to kill you. But nonetheless, this has taught you a valuable emotional lesson.
You’ve learned what it feels like to really have your happiness correlated to the other’s happiness.
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