Accept to give your girlfriend what she wants and needs, and the relationship will likely continue on. This doesn’t mean you capitulate to every whim and fancy she has, of course; if she tells you she’d really like to go hunt mountain lions with you and you’re morally opposed to hunting mountain lions, this probably won’t break your relationship. But you will need to give her what she needs to continue the relationship; and you’re fine giving these to her, so long as you either do so on your own terms, or she understands that whatever it is she’s getting from you is something you don’t care much about (e.g., if you don’t care either way about marriage and just see it as signing a contract, then she can ask you for marriage and you can say, “Sure, if you want that,” and it’s neither a capitulation on your part nor a big deal).
Either of these are fine, but you must choose one: give her what she needs, or don’t give her what she needs. If you take the “normal” route of not wanting to give her what she needs but trying to hang onto her in a relationship that has failed her, you’ll cause her pain, distress, and eventually force her into a corner where she breaks up with you unilaterally or cheats on you to force a decision out of you (as discussed in “How to Prevent Cheating by Your Girlfriend“). If you don’t want this to happen, don’t box her into that corner; give her what she needs, or let her go when she needs you to.
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