Simple steps to start a relationship with a NEW girlfriend

Are You a Relationship Grasshopper?

How’s the apply to new relationships? Well, answer me this – do you:

• Rush forth into relationships without much thought or planning, and insist on “following your heart?”
• Lack a relationship “game plan” – where you’d like the relationship to go and what steps along the way you see it following?
• Trust that if things are “meant to be,” they will just “work out?”
• Lack an end goal for your relationships; that is, a point at which the relationship ends and you can smile with satisfaction and say, “I consider this relationship a success?”

If you said “yes” to even one of those, you’re a relationship grasshopper, trusting that so long as you enjoy the present, the future will just “work itself out.”

But the future never works itself out.

And, especially as the man in the relationship, you have a certain responsibility to plan how things will proceed for both of you. Women are the more emotional half of 95% of male-female couples; that means they’re more inclined than you are to rush into things emotionally, lack much planning or foresight, trust in “destiny” (don’t get me started with women and “destiny”…), and get upset at the very mention of a relationship ending, even if they’ve had 10 relationships before and all of them have ended.

You’re the man; you must lead.

And if you’re leading from emotion, rather than from careful planning or forethought, you’re no better a leader than the head lemming of a pack of madly rushing lemmings, leading his followers right off a cliff (or, more factually correct, to a watery grave).

If you want to know how to start a relationship off so that it becomes asuccess, you’ve got to do it with care, thought, and planning – same as any other important undertaking in your life. Compared to the amount of deliberation people put into choosing a university to attend, or a major to select, or a career to pursue, or a position to take or a move to take once in that career, how they run their relationships is given far less thought by comparison, despite the fact that the impacts of these are often just as great as a career – or even greater.