2. You don’t focus enough on your relationship with yourself.
It’s been said so many times that it’s become a bit of a cliché, but there’s a lot of truth in the idea that you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else, or have them love and respect you. When you know (and like) who you are and are comfortable holding out for what you’re looking for, you’re less likely to get caught up in the sticky web of validation-seeking, which will often cause us to do things that ultimately harm us.
You don’t need to be chasing rejection, giving your love, affection, body and time to people who don’t value it or otherwise move away from what you truly want and deserve just to avoid being alone. If you go into dates feeling “pressure,” that’s a sign it’s time to work on getting things good with you.
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