Finding real love –
Ways Women SABOTAGE Their Chances – Odds are you’re getting in your own way.
Love is challenging enough to find without self-defeating behaviors. As such, many women can’t find a successful relationship and they become their own worst enemy.
After discussing the issues with over 250 women on Facebook, many were awakened to their own behaviors and how they were subconsciously destroying their chances for love. If you’re a woman, here are the top three ways you stop yourself from finding the relationship you deserve:
1. You put your ex on a pedestal .
After a breakup, we tend to look at our exes as perfect. We look past the issues that caused the breakup and remember only the good parts of a relationship. Even worse, we don’t see our own contributions to how the relationship failed.
This rose-colored glasses viewpoint can have a detrimental effect on future relationships for a number of reasons:
- You think, “No one will ever be like him.” You compare future romantic interests to the good parts of your past relationship. As a result, you search for and find all the flaws in the new guy, and talk yourself out of discovering someone new.
- No self-reflection or transition past the relationship. By mentally staying in a past relationship, you limit yourself for the future. You subconsciously stay stagnant in the hopes that he might return and you’ll be back together.
- You think, “He’s nothing like my first love.” Even established relationships can be affected by an ex long past. If you still hold a candle for a first love, instead of investing in your present with a current partner, you can sabotage your relationship. You’ll struggle with unnecessary arguments, tension and disconnection because you’ll keep your current partner at arm’s length emotionally.
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