#4: Know Your Purpose for the Relationship
You may not realistically be able to do this in your first couple of relationships, because you won’t have much relationship experience yet and won’t really know what you want. And that’s okay. You can view those relationships as learning experiences, and you can follow your heart with them and indulge in your emotions if you like.
Once you’re serious about building amazing relationships though, you absolutely, positively, no two ways about it need to do this. You can’t get out of it.
You must know what your goal for the relationship is.
You know what most guys’ goals for relationships are? They don’t have one. So they end up in these relationships where the whole purpose of the relationship is to get to some point that feels emotionally good to them, and then just KEEP things there, forever. The problem is, what feels emotionally good in a relationship for a man, and what feels emotionally good in a relationship for a woman are two different things.
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