#6: Date the Right Girl
There are a handful of articles on this site that deal with how to get a girlfriend who’s the right match for what you’re looking for. These are:
- Choosing the Right Qualities in a Woman
- Find the Right Girl: What to Look for in a Potential Girlfriend
What I find a lot of men do is they fall into these relationships with women who aren’t the right match for them, and it’s a disaster because they’re constantly on the fence. They’re with the girl only because they lack anabundance mentality sufficiently solid enough to allow them to walk away from a girlfriend who isn’t everything they want, but they aren’t comfortable giving her what she wants because she isn’t really what they want.
It’s not a good place to be.
For those reasons, I recommend never taking on a girlfriend who isn’t exactly what you want and whom you can’t feel excited about having as your girlfriend.
You can have casual partners, sure; but you must date multiple womenwhile doing this to avoid ending up in a relationship by default. That’s where you have a girl who originally wasn’t “good enough” to be your girlfriend, but seeing her casually over a period of time, eventually you get complacent while seeing her, you stop going out much to meet new women, and a scarcity mindset sets in… and suddenly, this girl who wasn’t good enough to date full-on before you’re now afraid of losing.
This also happens to men dating multiple women (so that’s not surefire protection), but generally not until they start hitting the age at which they lose interest in picking up much or start wanting to settle down.
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