5 definite ways to ask for and get what you want in bed

3. Don’t Forget About The Details

Be specific about what you want so you can best help your partner understand. If he feels lost by your request, he’ll probably be discouraged. And worse, if your partner feels that the request is too broad, he may see it as a dig at his sexual abilities. Saying something like, “I want something different because I need variety,” is big blow to his ego.