5 seductive ways to get exactly what you want in bed

Seductive ways to get exactly what you want - Women are constantly told they need to communicate their needs more to get more pleasure out of sex. "Tell us what you want!" men say. Well ... that's easier said than done! More.. I found an iPhone on the ground and what I found in its photo gallery terrified me.. Top 10 desirable women in sports – See who is number 1! (+Photos) Top 10 upcoming mind blowing technologies 10 mysterious planets outside the solar system – You’ll be shocked seeing this! (With Pics)

How do you get your man to do what you want in bed without spoiling the mood or making him feel inadequate? "I do not recommend a lot of instructional talking in the moment," says Dawn Michael, PhD, a clinical sexologist and author of Intimacy Guidebook for Couples. In other words, show, don't tell: Use touch and sound instead. Here are a few ways you can do that.

1. Guide his hands. Don't like what he's doing at the moment? Resist the tempation to blurt out "ugh, cut that out!" Instead, Michael advises women in her counseling sessions to "take his hand and show him what feels better." Use a firm but gentle touch. Navigate using arrows below 2. Make some noise. "Another way to communicate is to make enjoyable sounds and noises when he does something that feels good," Michael says. "This will ensure that he does it again." It's true. But if you feel self-conscious, don't force theatrical groans. Even sighing can be effective as long as he can hear it. SEE ALSO: 10 classic movies representing fashion from EVERY era - You will be surprised after seeing #1 (With Pictures) 3. Whisper it. Rather than giving orders, try seductive invitations. "A woman can say in a soft, sexy voice 'I like when you touch me like that,' or, 'it would make me feel so good if you did XYZ...'" Michael recommends. The key is your tone of voice and making it about how he makes you feel. 4. Talk about sex when you're not having sex. It still makes sense to have a longer conversation about what turns you on. Just pick the right time and setting: During a romantic dinner, over a glass of wine, or even when you're just hanging out in bed but not having sex. Michael says that it is under those conditions that a woman can most effectively share a fantasy with her man, explaining what turns her on in more detail. "A man is more apt to listen at that point than in the heat of passion," she notes. SEE ALSO: 11 things men secretly adore about the women they love - Ladies, you need to know these! 5. Don't get hung up on control. All this said, don't become fixated on getting him to touch you exactly the way you want, every time. "When we resist the urge to control, when we keep ourselves open, we preserve the possibility of discovery," says therapist Esther Perel in her book, Mating in Captivity . "Eroticism resides in the ambiguous space between anxiety and fascination." So be open and curious to whatever he tries, too. Most men truly want to rock your world in bed. But they're working against the myth that just being hard and having stamina is what women want. We're more complex than that! And that's a lot of misplaced pressure on them. The truth is, the more fun sex is for you, the more fun it is for them, too. So, make sure you both get what you want out of your lovemaking sessions. What do you think is the best way to communicate what you want in bed? - TheStir CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates TOP POSTS YESTERDAY Top 10 most famous & deadliest swords in the world + their history (With Pictures) Top 10 most beautiful brunettes in the world – See who is number 1 (With Pics) The most sexual and provocative photos of Ini Edo surfaces online (Look) 10 Unique Dog breeds you you’ve NEVER come across – You need to see #1 (With Pictures) 10 richest video games developing companies of all time 10 Shockingly bloodthirsty birds – #2 will leave you in a big shock! Lies girls tell when they want to sleep with you Top 12 most popular TV Channels in the world – See which is #1 The 20 sexiest sports cars of all time – See which is number 1 (With Pictures) 7 steps to the happiest relationship you can have – Read this now! 11 personal finance goals for your 20s