5 ways to love more and fight less - This will help you!

Ways to love more and fight less - Sometimes, the best advice given to people in a relationship is common sense, uncommonly used—as in, do unto your mate as you’d like done to you. More..

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3. Issue non-refusable offers. Volunteer! Say, “I insist that I help with…” Routinely offer to help your mate with chores, kids, and time off without guilt. Don’t wait for your honey to ask or beg you for a favor. As our love relationship becomes a fixed part of our life, it’s natural that what we come to expect, we come to neglect. We often show our kindest selves to strangers and colleagues, while we leave emotional scraps for our mate, who we presume will be there tomorrow, and we assume knows we love him/her. Be aware of these deadly presumptions and assumptions. Shower your mate with kind offers that she/he will enjoy and reciprocate. SEE ALSO: 10 Signs she's truly in love with you! 4. Have good fights. Happy couples do fight. Couples who say they never fight are dishonest, or perhaps one member of the couple acts like a doormat (and by the way, research shows that over a 10-year period women who report keeping their mouths shut during arguments with their spouses have a four times greater risk of heart disease, as compared to women who speak up). The goal in a good fight is to reach a solution so you avoid never-ending battles. Ask neutral questions (“Why do you think that?”) and listen to the answers, then give your opinion. Good fights end with a solution. Bad fights don’t. At the start of a fight, you and your mate will have different ideas about how to solve the problem at hand. Discard both ideas and come up with a joint solution. The fact is, when all parties participate in creating a resolution, they are more likely to comply. SEE ALSO: 7 types of love you might experience in your life - See this now!

5. Seek instant gratification. Yes, be rewarded today! Most couples counseling is a long-term process, but the simple strategies found in Fight Less, Love More give you the communication tools to quickly fix and enrich your relationship. Want to jump-start love today? Then try one of my 30-Second Love Plays, the Eyeball to Eyeball Love Play : Gently put your hand on your mate’s shoulder, look him/her in the eye, and say, “Honey, I really love you. You are incredible. I am so grateful to have you in my life.” When was the last time you said something like this to your mate? Say it today and see the results for yourself! - Laurie Puhn CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates TOP POSTS YESTERDAY 15 celebs who aged terribly (With Pictures) 10 Rich celebs who act like they are poor (With Pictures) 6 Nigerian celebrities who fly private jets regularly (With Pictures) 15 types of girlfriends that you MUST avoid or will make your life hell (Must See) 12 Shocking facts about Tyga and Kylie (With Pictures) 14 secrets the Obamas’ don’t want you to know (With Pictures) 10 celebs you didn’t know were muslim – This will leave you in a big shock! (With Pictures) Top 10 condoms that bring insane pleasure according to.. Top 12 world’s richest men of all time – See who is number 1: He’s African! (+Pics) Meet 10 Nollywood actresses who are owners of the luxurious Range Rover SUV – See who’s got the biggest (+Pics) Top 17 Worst celebrity wardrobe malfunctions that went viral – #17 will leave you in stitches! (See Photos)

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