5 Steps to help you master SLOW sex – See this to become a pro!

• Don’t just b-line it for her. Run your fingers over her stomach, over her hip bones, down her hips, on the inside and outside of her thighs. Take your time.
• When you decide/she decides that you/she would like to have your mouth on her, kiss your way down her body. Kiss her everywhere. Multiple times.
• Get into a comfortable position, when you’re getting ready to go down on her. If you contort your body into an awkward position that will inevitably make you cramp up, it communicates from the get-go “I’m just doing this for a few seconds because I think it is expected of me, and I won’t be here long.”
• Consider the intent behind your contact. How would you touch your lover if the intent behind your touch was to show and communicate tenderness? What about if it was lust? How about craving?Remember, she is the expert. Go in with open ears and an open mind, and your slow sex session will be off to a great start.

If your partner is a man

Anyone, regardless of gender, can have a more intense orgasm from the repeated rising and falling of their sexual arousal. Men benefit more from getting out of their heads and into their bodies because our relationship to our masculine is hyper logical/heady one.

Your man knows what he wants/needs better than any list on the internet, so make sure you’re communicating before and during your sexual play, and outside of the bedroom as well.

• Touch. Whether it’s an extended hug hello, an unexpectedly tender kiss on the lips, or simply having their bare torso connect with their partners at the end of a workday, nothing gets men more into their bodies than physical contact.
• Consider the energy behind the touch. Your partner might need you to start with tenderness, care, and softness… or they might respond the most strongly to you unexpectedly grabbing their crotch while they’re engaging in a decidedly non-sexual activity.
• Are you in bed/somewhere where you’re starting to get frisky? Wake up his flesh with your lips and fingers.
• Kiss him softly. Suck on his lower lip. Graze your lips across his torso. Press your body against his. Let your hair act as another hand… drag it over him slowly. The feminine chaos is part of your sexual charm… embrace it.