LADIES: 6 Bad reasons your ex keeps hitting you up + 1 GOOD one!

Bad reasons your ex keeps hitting you up - Girl, just say no. Breakups don't always go the way we've planned, and sometimes, one or both parties might secretly want the other person back. At that point, you should ask yourself, Why exactly does my ex keep popping up after a breakup in the first place?" More..

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