2. Don’t smother him with unwanted affection.
Telling a man your feelings for him is great in small doses, but NOT great in the widely sweeping, dramatic way that many of us (me included) have tried it in the past, out of fear.
Here are some GOOD things you could say (that don’t come across as overbearing):
- “I really enjoyed the [thing he did]. That was great.”
- “I have a really fun time with you when we [insert activity here].”
This kind of praise is wonderful. It acknowledges his contribution and makes him feel appreciated.
But saying something like, “I love you so much snookiewookums, I can’t wait to spend forever with you!!” Now THAT is a recipe for disaster.
Since being verbally demonstrative of our feelings comes more naturally, and we might enjoy hearing the latter (maybe without the snookiewookums part) because this kind of verbal declaration can make us feel safer in the relationship. When things get tough, though, we often mistakenly think that a man will want the same kind of verbal reassurance of our feelings. Unfortunately this usually backfires and pushes him even further away.
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