3. You have a fear of intimacy.
Some people make a habit of avoiding real love as a way of protecting themselves. They shy away so they won’t get hurt. Prolonging the search for love — in this case, pursuing it when it’s unrequited — becomes a way of keeping the sensation of being in love without the risk.
Chasing after the impossible person turns into a bargain where we satisfy our longing for connection and our need to protect our vulnerable feelings at the same time. Remaining fixated on someone who doesn’t love us allows us to feel the intensity and passion involved in relationship without the risk of commitment.
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