Ladies: 8 Signs that nice guy is actually a narcissistic asshole – Don’t let him fool you!

4. He Defers to You in All Decisions

This might seem super thoughtful at first, but Hanks says it can actually be a big red flag.

“If he always wants you to decide things—where to go, what to do—that is a warning sign,” she says. “Healthy people are able to both express their own wants and also consider the input of their date or girlfriend. If a guy agrees with everything you think, or say, or do, he’s either not being genuine or doesn’t have a good sense of who he is—and may look to you to prop him up or inflate his self-worth.”