10 Ways to fix a sexless marriage

7. Let your partner know your desires.

After exploring your sexual fantasies, come up with a short list of your desires. They can be tame: foot massage, cuddling on the couch, longer kisses. Or your desires can be more wild: erotic spanking, sexual surrender, having outdoor sex.

What’s essential is that your desires are specific. When you can name exactly what you want, it’s much more likely you will get it. Share your specific desires with your lover and ask them to come up with their own list.