2. They don’t need a man, they want one.
Guys have a kind of sixth sense for desperation in women, and they usually don’t find it attractive (and if they do, they probably have shady motives anyway). For strong women, having a man in their lives isn’t a necessity, it’s a plus.
According to expert Sarah Kowolski, this applies even when you feel like your biological clock is ticking faster than you’d like. “Don’t desperately search for a baby daddy, even if you’re approaching the end of your fertility,” she says. “Men can smell the desperation and urgency to have a baby pronto, and it usually makes them bolt. Instead, if you’re reaching 40 and really want a baby, go have a baby on your own and return to finding a romantic partner afterward. You remove desperation and urgency from your life, and show that you’re independent, self-possessed and not afraid to make your dreams a reality. That combination is irresistible to the right man.”
Sarah Kowalski is a life coach and single mom by choice who helps women become mothers, no matter what it takes. You can follow her blog at Motherhood Reimagined or join her onFacebook.
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