7. A Judgement-Free Zone

Men want to be intimate with you — and to ask for things — without feeling judged or criticized. Be open and loving. And if you want him to do something differently, Solin suggests instead of saying, “You never …” try, “It would feel great if you would do this.”

And DON’T take it personally if he loses his erection. This is so important! “Men, if they are tired or stressed, are not always able to maintain an erection,” Michaels says. “If you take it personally, it can create performance anxiety.” SEE ALSO: EXPOSED: A town in Lagos where prostitutes sell sex like hot cake (+Photos)