8. They’re irresponsible for their own feelings
Possessive people aren’t self-aware, especially when it comes to their feelings. This trait points back to shame they have about expressing themselves due to past experiences of emotional abandonment according to licensed marriage and family therapist, Darlene Lancer.
Instead of taking responsibility for how they feel or for their mistakes, possessive people blame their partners.
For example, instead of saying they want a relationship to move faster, they’ll accuse their partner of moving too fast.
Another way to place blame is to focus the actions of their partners instead of their own. For example, a possessive person sleeps through their alarm and wakes up thirty minutes late. On their way out the door, they spend an additional 45 seconds searching for their car keys because their spouse moved the keys. Instead of acknowledging that they woke up late, a possessive person may ridicule their spouse for making them late by moving the car keys.
BIGGEST RED FLAG: When accused of being possessive, the classic manipulative response is to claim that needy behavior is a sign of love. If you hear this, run the other way!
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