If you are not feeling these 12 things, know it Isn't true love..

Know it Isn't true love - We meet, we connect, we fall in love. But is it real? Looking for that special someone has become a priority for many. Google shows over 300 million results for the search "online dating sites." There are more than 40 million American singles heading online to find love. More..

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We want to merge our bodies, minds and spirits. Orgasmic intensity isn't just about pleasure. It's about wanting to share our hearts, souls, atoms and electrons. We want to lose ourselves and find the divine. 3. It's us against the world. We no longer feel alone. We are now part of a pair. We feel the power of two and joy of being us . We're still in the world, but the world seems like the background. We two are the center, and the world is there to support and embrace us. 4. Longing to create. The primal creation, the reason we are each here, is that a man and a woman came together, an intrepid sperm was welcomed by a wondrous egg, and we were launched into life. But in a world with too many people, we also create art, music, home, healing and other gifts for humankind. 5. Disillusionment. The honeymoon time comes to an end. Disillusionment sets in. Our partner seems to change. They are not who we thought they were, and they aren't giving us what we longed to have. We wonder if we've made a mistake and begin turning away and looking for what is missing. 6. Incompatibility. Incompatibility is grounds for true love. When we become disillusioned with our partner, we often feel we've become incompatible. But when we recognize that disillusionment can mean letting go of illusions, we can also let go of believing that incompatibility is a bad thing. It actually allows us to learn where our wounds have been hiding. 7. Discovering our wounded selves. In looking away from our partner, we are forced to look within. We feel the pain of the trauma we all experience growing up in families that didn't adequately meet our needs. We recognize that we were hoping that our partner would make us whole. We were looking for love in all the wrong places. 8. Embracing Illness. Everyone gets sick, but that's not a bad thing. Sickness can be our greatest teacher, our greatest guide. I got depressed. My wife got breast cancer. We both developed heart arrhythmias. We learned the lessons of illness and healed. 9. Learning the mathematics of true love and addictive love. When we look for a partner to make us whole, we experience addictive love: "I’ve got to have him/her or I'll die." The math is ½ x ½ = ¼. The longer we're together, the smaller we become. When we look to our partner to help us heal and grow, we are on the path of true love. The math is 1 + 1 = Infinity. 10. Turning back towards our lover and committing to being real. Being real is not sweetness and light. It is passionate, painful and creative—much like making a baby and giving birth. Being real requires being part of a pair. Self-actualization is not something we do by ourselves. 11. Love is letting go of fear. All our unhappiness and illnesses are fear-based. We're afraid of losing what we have or not getting what we need. We always have two choices. Do we feed the fear or do we feed the love? Whichever one we feed gets stronger. 12. Accepting that real, lasting love is a journey, not a destination. Real, lasting love is something we create every minute of every day. It's the most difficult thing we do in our lives. It is also the simplest. But simple isn't always easy. Learning to love is the graduate school of life. Admission is free, but will cost you everything you have. Are you ready for the journey? by Jed Diamond, Ph. D CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates TOP POSTS YESTERDAY Top 25 Richest female singers in the world and their worth - See who's number 1! (With Pictures) 7 Nigerian celebrity children who are big time fashion influencers (With Pictures) 13 Nigerian celebrities and their parents (With Pictures) The 15 hottest women Kanye West has slept with.. (With Pictures) 14 secrets the Obamas' don't want you to know (With Pictures) 6 types of sex women enjoy more - Guys, see this now! Hottest students in Bowen University for 2015 – Male & Female (With Photos) Hehe! 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