2. Practice your moves.
Long before you give your man a lap dance, start dancing for your own pleasure. Find a few songs that you find sexy and seductive and then practice dancing to them, enjoying the way the moves feel in your body.
Ditch the mirror and don’t worry about what looks sexy. Focus on what feels sexy to you.
One of our golden rules is “Get Out Of Your Head, Get Into Your Hips!” Women spend too much energy worrying about how they look, what their lover is thinking and if they are performing adequately enough.
Take all of that energy and focus on how you FEEL. Bring the focus of your attention down into your body and notice the sensations of pleasurable movement.
Start with your hips. Place your hands on your hips and sway your hips left and right. Notice how your whole body curves in response. Then thrust your hips forward and notice how your spine arches.
All of these bends and curves are crazy sexy. Have a little extra flesh? Use it to your advantage and accentuate your curves as you bend and sway with the music.
Next, find a song that you love dancing to. You can choose a fast, booty-thumping song that makes you feel feisty and alive. Or you may prefer a sensual dance to a slow love song.
Find the songs that make you feel most alive, most erotically charged and most ready to seduce your lover. Then dance to the song over and over again until you are at ease moving and swaying to the rhythm.
You don’t have to choreograph a whole routine, just find a few good moves that feels sexy to you. The more confident you feel, the more desire you will build in your audience of one!
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