What to do:
First, get some perspective. It takes two to tango. Take time alone or talk to a friend, coach, ortherapist about what part you may be taking in all of this back and forth name-calling.
How much are you responsible for? Are you more often the blamer or the blamee?
If the latter, then act like a scientist and gather concrete data on when the blame happens. If it’s when you’re trying to get closer, or when you’re feeling especially great about yourself or having a really good day, have a talk with your friend or partner.
If the conversation produces more blame from them, it’s time to leave.
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