10 ways someone who lost their spouse loves differently

Ways someone who lost their spouse loves differently – Being a widow is a rollercoaster of emotion. I probably don’t need to tell you that losing a spouse is one of life’s most stressful and devastating events (Holmes and Rahe stress scale). The decision to move on is filled with a myriad of conflicting thoughts and feelings, fears and hopes.

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No one chose to end the marriage. It was stolen from you — often unexpectedly. As a result, falling in love again and dating again for widows can be light years different than it is for someone who is divorced or has always been single.

At first, as a widow dating, you may have never thought that you could feel anything, much less love, for someone else. Then after some time, you meet someone and for some reason, you get this weird feeling — butterflies. That’s when you realize that you too can have feelings again.

Here are 10 ways that someone who lost their spouse loves differently the second time around and why it’s okay:

1. It may feel like a love triangle.

You love your new partner, but you are still in love with your spouse. How crazy, huh?

It’s not about having a replacement. Your new love is unique and can’t compete with a memory. It’s okay. It doesn’t have to make emotional sense. The heart is big enough to love more than one person. What you really love is the memory of your spouse, the life you had with them in the past.

Now, you are loving the life you are experiencing with your new love and what you are looking forward to in the future. You will forever love that memory and a part of you will forever grieve that loss and my guess is that in some way, that’s a comfort to you and you wouldn’t want to lose that part.