3. Seeing the best in people magnetizes them.
Instead of reflexively accentuating the worst in a person or situation, choose to energize positive qualities. The object isn’t to flatter, make nice, be politically correct or ignore intuitive red flags — nor to deny someone’s dark side or placate abusers.
Your goal is to mine the gold in positive relationships and elevate the communication in more difficult ones.
We want to have the goodness in us acknowledged. If you want to connect with someone, notice his or her assets. Let’s say a co-worker is snotty.
Realize that happy people don’t act this way. So instead of being snotty back or constantly miffed, redirect the energy. Comment on the long hours she puts in, or her dynamite shoes. Use this approach for a week and watch the vibes change.
You can also try these:
- Tell at least two people you love what you’re grateful for about them.
- Tell at least two people you don’t love what you’re grateful for about them.
- Adjust your perception. Spend an afternoon noticing the positive qualities of everyone you meet.
- Praise other people’s abilities.
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