2. I focused on the sensation
One surefire key to losing your sexual confidence is by directing your attention to the wrong things. It’s natural for your mind to wander, or for you to start worry that your technique isn’t up to par.
That’s a slippery slope that can lead you to feeling inadequate, insecure and seriously unsexy. Don’t be fooled by this negative cognitive self-talk!
Instead, refocus.
The easiest way to do this is to concentrate on the sensations of your sexual experience.
How does your skin feel being stroked that way, what does your partner’s mouth feel like on yours?
I’m getting all steamed up just writing about this stuff, so you KNOW it will up your confidence in real-life sexy times.
3. I started talking more
If you feel like what you’re doing to your partner during sex isn’t having the effect you want it to have, of course you feel like your sexual confidence is in the gutter!
I know exactly how that feels.
How did I beat it?
I started TALKING in bed.
Now I don’t mean that I started using dirty talk (although that’s good, too). What I mean is that I started checking in with my partner.
Asking how something feels, what they want more of, what they want less of, getting that specific instruction matters.
When you know how to please your partner it’s almost impossible not to feel confident the next time you two have sex.
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