17. And a distinct lack of boundaries.
A person who doesn’t respect any boundaries has no sense of personal space. This individual will often “borrow” your possessions without asking, and then won’t take good care of them or won’t ever return them to you. He or she will also disrespect your emotional boundaries by offering you unsolicited advice, judgments, and opinions.
- How this relationship affects you: You’ll feel a lack of control when this person is around, and you’ll want to run far away and never see him or her again. If you must have a no-boundaries individual in your life because he or she is your relative or has some other close tie, this type of person can be crazy-making. You’ll be frustrated whenever you must spend time with him or her. Such people can be lovable and show you that they really care, but the way in which they do so is disrespectful.
- How to handle this: Since this behavior style was likely learned in childhood, it’s unlikely that this person is going to change much in adulthood. The best you can do is to be honest and repeat yourself about your parameters and boundaries. This person usually will hear repeated directness, even if he or she doesn’t agree with what’s being said.
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