22. And never cares what’s going on in your life.
In a one-sided relationship, the other person only talks about him- or herself, and never asks how you’re doing. The minute you start talking about yourself, the other person leaves or ends the conversation, or pulls the topic back to themselves.
- How this relationship affects you: You feel unimportant, as if you don’t matter. In this relationship, you’ll feel lonely, and “not good enough” to warrant the other person’s attention or affection. Until you catch on to the fact that this person is self-absorbed, you may chase after his or her attention and affection.
- How to handle this: In most situations, there’s no possibility of relationship growth into a mutual friendship, because such people aren’t open to hearing any dialogue except for the part they contribute. In the ideal outcome, you have an assertive talk with the individual, telling him or her your honest feelings about how you value your relationship and you’d like it to continue under a new dynamic of equal sharing and equal listening. The point of being honest is that it’s healthy, not that it will change the other person.
CLICK THE PAGES BELOW TO SEE THE REST
Page 22 of 26
Discussion about this post