Chivalry and a woman’s friends
So you want to date a woman and impress her? The first thing you need to know is how to be chivalrous, and the second thing you need to know is that women always need reassurance. Women need their friends’ opinion before they step out in a new dress. They need to have a majority vote before deciding the place to have a quick lunch. And about whether the lunch has to be quick or not, well, now that too needs a vote of reassurance.
So what makes you think you’re any different?! Now let’s try figuring out what happens in your date’s life after your first coffee date. She hops, skips and jumps back to her place or to a friend’s place. All her friends want to know all the details. So it’s either a conference call or a huddle. And everything is discussed in intricate detail.
This is when your chivalry comes into the picture. Irrespective of whether your damsel has noticed it or not, her friends will.
I remember one time when I had a first date. I was being exceptionally nice to her, but she just didn’t acknowledge it one bit. I didn’t give up though. I kept up with the nice me in everything I did with her. I dropped her back to her place, headed back to mine and wondered if I made any impact on her. I don’t know how it happened, but she actually called me that very night and asked me for a second date, and soon we started going out. I later found out that her friends had convinced her that I was a nice guy and asked her to call me back. Apparently, they thought I was the damn definition of a chivalrous knight!
I mean, how hard can it be to dust her seat, pull a chair back, give her your coat, and hold the door open for her? But you see, doing that made all the difference. The moral of this? Even if she doesn’t show her appreciation, don’t give up on figuring out how to be chivalrous. Her friends might see your chivalrous nature as a sign of gentlemanly behavior.
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