4. He doesn’t just want intercourse, he wants affection
In the beginning stages of a new marriage S-E”X-x itself generally becomes the focus for awhile. Once the couple begins settling into a routine and life, we sometimes forget about all the daily opportunities we have to connect, physically and emotionally, beyond just the bedroom through hugs and little touches.
I’ve heard many women complain that their man only seems interested in S-E”X-x and/or if they initiate any touch at all that their spouse thinks it means they want to get “right to S-E”X-x.” When I ask them if they’re taking advantage of other times to be affectionate, many couples say they’re not. This is due to a myriad of reasons — kids, jobs, sleep schedules.
When we relegate touch and affection to just the bedroom, it’s akin to spending the week in a desert, being offered a glass of water, and then being told to just take a sip. It’s difficult to not want more. By making a concerted effort to increase touch and affection throughout the week, many couples find a greater sense of connection, feel less tension, and enjoy a greater feeling of mutual satisfaction.
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