3. Our biology wants older men to cheat on their wives.
Think of the world through the eyes of your genes. Their goal is to get themselves passed on. The only way they can do that is to get another human to have sex with the body that houses those genes and hope a baby is created.
It is a biological reality that women reach an age when they can no longer reproduce. We call it menopause. Men reach an age when their hormones begin to drop and they become more and more irritable and antsy. We call it “male menopause.”
However, for men, we can still have babies later in life. But only with a woman who is young enough to conceive. So our biology pulls men away from their mid-life wives into the arms of someone younger and more reproductively capable.
When he says, “I love you, but I’m not ‘in love’ with you”, what he really means is that “I don’t feel that crazy, biological lust that makes me want to have you on the dining room table.”
So what do we do? You must talk about this reality. Confront the issue head on and learn that there is more to life than sex.
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