Why women love confident men – Have you ever wondered what drives a woman to choose you? If you’re direct and confident while others remain passive, there’s no contest – you’ll already be the clear winner in her eyes. Many single young women navigating the dating scene read my dating advice column, The Babe Report, and email me with their frustrations regarding how tough dating can be.
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What is the most common complaint among these single ladies? Indirect, passive men who have no solid plan, no clear intentions, and make dating feel exhausting instead of fun.
Granted, there’s some generalising going on here but think of it as a rule of thumb rather than an absolute. David Klow, a Chicago based psychotherapist and owner of Skylight Counseling Center states, “Women like direct men the same way a salsa dancer likes a good lead. When there is clarity and direction, she feels relaxed. If she can’t trust his movements, they step on one another’s toes. If he is direct and clear in his leadership, however, everyone wins.”
Here, I lay out the four main reasons women love dating direct men. If you want to become a direct man, understanding the appeal is a good place to start.
1. The Direct Man Doesn’t Cause Unnecessary Stress:
Dating should be fun, not stressful. It’s hard to trust the ambiguous, indirect type, and dating these kinds of guys usually results in the woman’s confidence level plummeting the longer she has to guess how he feels.
When you’re really present with a woman, you’re showing genuine interest and that’s what makes dating enjoyable. You should make her feel secure. Otherwise, her self-esteem is in jeopardy, and her self-esteem is a prized possession – something she won’t want to risk damaging by playing mind games with unenthused guys.
Sasha Daygame, direct dating coach, creator of The Direct Dating Summit and author of The Direct Daygame Bible: How to Meet and Attract Beautiful Women in Everyday Situations, explains that being the “mysterious type” results in nothing but complications: “The mystery method was popularised by the bookThe Game and encourages inauthenticity and awkward interactions.” As an alternative approach, Sasha recommends his direct dating method, which encourages honesty, authenticity and expressing yourself assertively.
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