2. Face past relationship difficulties.
We would all rather put difficult past relationships behind us, but examining them objectively can reveal patterns that need to be broken.
Take an honest assessment of what caused your worst relationships to break down. Were there communication issues? Mistrust? Dependency? Did you and your partner bring out the worst in each other instead of the best? Look for issues that seemed to repeat themselves across multiple relationships, and then take a critical look at their likely causes. Do you have relationship-based anxieties, a tendency to become jealous, or trouble communicating your needs?
Facing your negative relationship tendencies is the first step toward ensuring that they do not repeat themselves. As you search for true love, keep your eyes open for signs of old patterns returning and be prepared to do the hard work necessary to nip them in the bud.
Remember, some issues can be solved through mutual effort, while others reflect a tendencyto choose psychologically unhealthy partners. If a potential mate is unwilling to work on issues with you, he or she is probably not the best choice.
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