2. There is no wrong way to experience sexuality.
In a recent interview with Emmalee Bierly, MFT, Jennifer Chaiken, MFT, and Caitlyn Caracciolo, MFT, the owners of The West Chester Therapy Group, they told me there was no wrong way to experience sexuality.
Meaning that a couple’s comfort and sexuality is completely individual to that particular couple. It is inevitable that there will be one partner who has a higher sex drive in a relationship. When this happens, you have to find a balance that will keep both people happy.
This is where oral sex can be such a useful tool. I’ve written about my colossal sex drive for the whole of my writing career. My partner’s sex drive is not nearly as high as mine. If I need an orgasm and he isn’t feeling sex, he’ll go down on me. It’s a solution that works for us.
This won’t be the case for all couples. Some people might find their sexual balance in other ways such as one partner using a sex toy on the more sexual partner or masturbating with the less sexual partner acting as an active participant. It’s all about a customized balance within each relationship.
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