2. You avoid certain positions because you don’t want your partner to look at you.
This doesn’t mean that you hate your body, but it’s concerning that you would deny yourself (and your partner) pleasure because you’re insecure about a particular body part. If this is the case, you might want to turn the lights off and practice deriving pleasure from these so-called “problem areas.”
“Once you learn to associate pleasure with a body part, you’re more likely to appreciate it and gain confidence in showing it off. I had a client who hated her butt — she would only wear baggy pants and avoided any rear-entry positions. One day while playing around in the dark, her partner started pressing on her butthole and she realized that this made her orgasms even better. As she started to enjoy anal play, she became more comfortable with the shape and size of her butt,” says Dr. Jess.
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