Sometimes, we assume that the person we love is in love with us too, thereby letting our guards down and completely falling hopelessly in love with them. But things eventually take a toll in the relationshp, thereby making us land back on the ground; sad, weak, regretful, hurt and of course heartbroken (I know this feeling). But, how do you know when someone is totally in it for the long run? How do you know when he loves you from the deepest part of his heart? This article by Iona Yeung will help identify 3 things to look out for before fully committing into the relationship.
When you know a bit about how to read body language and other forms of nonverbal communication, you can a pretty idea of where your boyfriend’s heart is even before he’s worked up the courage to tell you about it himself.
Nonverbal communication, also known as NVC, is defined as “communication through sending and receiving wordless cues.”
This may include anything from “the use of visual cues such as body language (kinesics), distance (proxemics) and physical environments/appearance, of voice (paralanguage) and of touch (haptics) … [as well as] the use of time (chronemics) and eye contact and the actions of looking while talking and listening, frequency of glances, patterns of fixation, pupil dilation, and blink rate (oculesics).”
In general, knowing how to read people is a great skill to have.
And knowing how to read the body language of men can be a major source of help when you’re trying to figure out if a guy’s in lust or in love.
Here are 3 tips on how to read the body language and non-verbal communication of men when you’re stuck figuring out how to tell if a guy likes you.
1. His eyes
A guy who’s in love with you will often steal glances your way, especially when he thinks you aren’t looking.
Whether the two of you are speaking or enjoying each other’s company in silence, he’ll connect with you through his gaze.
But don’t mistaken eye contact for love. It can be easy to confuse attraction for connection.
Many sources will tell you to look at someone’s pupils, and it’s true, our pupils dilate when we meet someone we find attractive. But … that doesn’t necessarily translate to falling in love.
If you’re unsure about how a guy feels about you, pay attention to where his eyes wander when you’re together.
If his gaze is at your cleavage more than your eyes, it could be mean his feelings for you haven’t yet progressed beyond physical attraction yet, which is perfectly OK.
And remember, his gaze should only be one of many indicators to watch for in order to figure out whether or not he’s falling for you.