2. Rediscover your own desires
After talking openly with your husband, create a secret space to privately write down all your thoughts and feelings, without censoring yourself. Make this your Desire Journal. Use it to note the ebb and flow of your desire as you work to reclaim it. Every woman has desires, but they’re sometimes the last thing we talk about in marriage.
Desire in its purest form breeds passion, and as you become passionate again, you’ll find your natural instincts open up… and yes, this includes loving sex! The power of inner desire is one of the most incredible states of connection.
Writing down your desires (whether for a piece of chocolate, a warm bath, or physical touch) is a simple exercise that can help steadily tune you into your natural need for sex.
Remember — sexual desire for women involves emotional connection, too, so nurture your desires on all levels to gain your arousal back.