18. Bisexual Is Not A Gateway Sexuality
Just as bisexuality isn’t a temporary phase, it also isn’t a transition from straight to gay. Some people say that bisexuals have one foot in the closet and one out, or that they can’t make up their mind. This is because a lot of people view sexuality as a black and white concept; you’re either attracted to men, or you’re attracted to women, and if you’re bi, it’s because you’re transitioning from one to the other. The problem is that sexuality is not black and white. There’s no rule that says you “have” to only be attracted to one gender, just like there isn’t a rule that says you “have” to only be attracted to the opposite gender. Bisexuals are attracted to more than one gender because they find more than one gender attractive.
And sure, a lot of gay people do temporarily identify as bi while they try to sort out their feelings, and that’s fine. That doesn’t mean that’s the case for every single bisexual person, or even most bisexual people. For most of them, it’s a permanent part of their lives.
17. Bisexuals Are Not More Likely To Cheat
This stereotype is old and tired. Bisexuals are no more likely to cheat than any other orientation; there has never been any evidence of it, yet hundreds of people labor under the delusion that if they date a bisexual, that person will inevitably cheat on them, but specifically with another gender. Straight men and lesbians alike say that they would never date a bisexual because they’re afraid they’ll cheat on them with, well, a lesbian or a straight man. Straight men rarely voice the concern that a bisexual partner would cheat on them with another man, nor do lesbians seem convinced that a bisexual partner would cheat on them with another lesbian. Just because bisexuals find men and women attractive does not mean they need to be with both at the same time; bisexual is not synonymous with polyamorous, but we’ll get into that later. Straight men and lesbians rarely use “I’m afraid she’ll cheat on me” as justification for not dating straight or lesbian women, and it’s unfair that they do it to bisexual women. Bisexuals are only as likely to cheat as any other sexuality.
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