3. She wants to be dominated.
Even big-mouthed ballsy women enjoy being dominated, yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of coming across as creepy. But with tons of trust and communication, you just need to take baby steps and constantly read her body language to make sure she’s comfortable, both physically and emotionally.
I want to emphasize the importance of baby steps: If you’re going to play around with domination, it’s never a good idea to start off with anything that might hurt her feelings or humiliate her (i.e., barking orders at her or name-calling). Playing around with restraints — loose restraints, of course — is definitely a better way to go.
How to ask: Start simple. Really simple. “Would you like it if I blindfolded you the next time I go down on you?” If she likes that, next time ask, “Would you like it if I loosely tied your wrists to the bedposts?” If she likes that, next time ask, “Would you like it if I held down your arms while I lick your breasts?” If she likes that, the two of you can figure out what else she might like.
It’s also a good idea to create a “safe word,” which is something she can say when she wants you to stop immediately. Sometimes in the heat of the moment people say, “Oh, noooo!” when they really mean, “Oh, that feels good!” So it’s good if your safe word is something other than “no.”
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