Art of making out – For once, teenagers were right. I don’t make out anymore. I used to make out a lot when I was younger. It was so exciting, so new. I was so happy to be kissing someone, anyone, that I’d just lose myself in the act. We’d go park my car somewhere and the only thing on the agenda was making out. We’d spent hours upon hours just locking lips for the joy of locking lips.
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At the time, I couldn’t imagine anything better. (Well, I probably could, but parents and privacy were a big concern back then.)
But now that I’m older, I look back on those marathon make-out sessions with amazement. How did we go that long? WHY did we go that long?
That kind of kissing almost seems unnatural in retrospect, like an engine running at full speed without any oil. Why didn’t we have friction burns? Where was all that saliva coming from? And why weren’t we bored? How were we able to keep up that repetitive motion for so long without one of us just getting tired and saying, “OK, OK, you’ve made your point”?
THAT makes me feel old.
Because my current laziness be damned, making out WAS awesome.
It IS awesome. And I think more adults need to remember exactly why teenagers are so excited to spend a whole afternoon just kissing each other with wild abandon.
Because the kissing isn’t boring. We’re boring. And that kind of romantic complacency can take a toll on long-term relationships.
So, here are 5 reasons why relearning how to make out like a teenager might just add some much needed spark back into your romance:
1. Because sex isn’t everything.
I think this is one of the biggest obstacles for adults to get over when it comes to making out — the idea that kissing doesn’t HAVE to lead to sex.
Sure, it’s nice when it leads to sex, but if you only see kissing as either a quick “hi and goodbye” thing or as the opening notes of foreplay, you will completely forget to enjoy kissing as something in and of itself.
So why not carve out some time to just kiss your partner because it feels AWESOME?
Don’t put sex on the table. Don’t try to make the kissing lead anywhere.
Schedule some time to make out without anything planned afterwards — that’s the only thing you’re doing tonight — and you’ll start to rediscover how good kissing can feel if you’re not trying to rush through it to get to the next thing.
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