4. You’re confident, not afraid to be vulnerable.
5. You’re adventurous and willing to experiment.
6. You communicate your needs and listen to your partner.
7. You make time and don’t rush.
8. You enjoy giving pleasure as much as you enjoy receiving it.
9. You’re supportive, not judgmental.
10. You’re fully present in the moment with good eye contact and can let go.
What stops us from being good lovers? Frequently it’s time constraints, self-centeredness, inhibitions, and lack of technique. Also, our minds won’t shut off which keeps us from being in the moment.
Further, many of us resist surrendering to how sexy we really are. Why? We haven’t learned to see ourselves as sexy. We’ve been brainwashed by the “skinny ideal.” Also, sex is frequently viewed more as a performance feat than a holy exchange.
Growing up, most of us haven’t been given the right kind of education about what true sexiness is. If only we’d been taught that sexuality is a healthy, natural part of us that we must embody in a mindful, loving way — not something “dirty” or something to be ashamed of.
Early on we learn that the words vagina and penis embarrass people. Except between lovers, they are rarely ever part of our vocabulary. We are a culture that embraces shame, only there is nothing to be ashamed of!
Sexual responsiveness is a sensitive barometer. Intimacy requires self-awareness and a willingness to remove obstacles. Taking action can help you achieve a loving, erotic relationship.
On a daily basis, train yourself to be more mindful about getting rest and pacing yourself. It’s not sexy to rush around and be constantly stressed out. Especially when you’re busy, it’s important to remember to breathe, a quick way to reconnect with your body! Though family, work, and other demands can intrude on making time sexuality, being dedicated to self-care can help you prioritize it in your relationship.
To cure self-doubts, you need to be solution-oriented. For instance, if you wonder, “Is my technique right?” honestly talk with your partner how you can meet each other’s needs. If you’re bored with the same positions, playfully brainstorm together about exciting ways to experiment. Also, with respect, keep discussing the anger or hurt you may feel towards each other so that your resentments don’t numb passion.
For more complex issues such as fear of intimacy, reach out to a therapist or a friend for insight. While exploring your fears, be kind to yourself. Such sweetness allows you to mend wounds and reclaim your sexual power.
CLICK HERE to join our BBM Channel for faster updates
TOP POSTS YESTERDAY
- 6 Reasons Nigerian men are scared of all Calabar girls (With Pictures)
- 12 things you can only see in Dubai (With Pictures)
- LADIES: If you do these 9 things, No man can ever play you!
- For one week, I decided to SLEEP with my boyfriend whenever he wanted (Here’s what happened)
- I found an iPhone on the ground and what I found in its photo gallery terrified me..
- 5 things every virgin should know – No one will ever tell you this!
- 7 Photos of Cynthia Morgan that will give you instant head turn – Don’t look if you can’t control your self!
- LADIES: 10 things men are dying to hear you say when making love – Blow his mind with your words!
- Top 10 Nigerian celebrities you didn’t know are siblings (With Pictures)
- Top 5 richest Nigerian musicians in 2016 – the money in their bank accounts will shock you!
Discussion about this post