Instead, there’s an easier way to deal with this. Let your partner know when you’ve made the effort to do something nice for them. You’re not being pompous. You’re just letting them know the truth, and there’s nothing wrong in that.
In fact, telling your partner that you did something special for them will make your partner appreciate the gesture and feel grateful too!
After all, at the end of the day, all you want is a simple ‘thank you’ to feel appreciated, isn’t it?
Being taken for granted and self respect
There’s a reason why you may be allowing others to take you for granted. And in all probability, it starts and ends with self respect.
You don’t respect yourself enough to believe you’ve done enough for someone. You constantly try to do something more or do something better just to compensate for what, you believe, you’re lacking in.
And this behavior of yours pushes you to try harder to please others, and in return, you hope to be appreciated and loved. And when you don’t feel appreciated and loved, you start to believe you’re being taken for granted.
Do you seriously respect yourself for who you are, or do you need someone else’s appreciation to reaffirm that you’re a great person? Answering this question truthfully will help you realize why you’re being taken for granted all the time.