Why people take you for granted: Do you find yourself being taken for granted all the time, be it by your lover or your friends? These 16 truthful reasons can change your life forever. Are you one of those people who find themselves being taken for granted all the time? You may be assertive and in control of your life. But somewhere along the way, you start to realize that the people that love you are taking you and the things you do for them for granted almost all the time!
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You may be loving and caring.
And you may go out of your way often to please your lover and pamper them.
But what do you do when your indulgences are taken for granted and turn into expectations?
Whose fault is it when you’re being taken for granted?
Should you blame the person taking you for granted?
Or should you blame yourself?
When you indulge in romantic gestures all the time without caring about your lover’s reciprocation, or when you’re too sweet and nice to your lover or a friend all the time without ever letting them realize that you’re going way out of your way to do something nice for them, it’s pretty obvious that they’d take you for granted because they don’t realize the effort you’ve made for them!
Can you blame someone when they have no idea about the effort you’ve taken for them?
Of course, they may feel pampered or special the first few times. But once it starts to feel like routine, the indulgences turn into expectations.
And if you don’t behave the same way or don’t make the effort one day, your lover may even get annoyed with you!
The harder you try, the bigger their expectations. And before you know it, you don’t get anything in return, and yet, you’d be expected to go out of your way and do something special for them all the time.
And almost always, this is the point of no return when you’d start to feel like you’re being taken for granted in the relationship!
Communication and being taken for granted
Everyone takes someone for granted when they’re in love, even if it’s only for a moment. And the only way to stop someone from taking you for granted is by letting them know just how hard you’ve tried to do something for them.
Learn to communicate and let them know if you’re going out of the way for them. You don’t have to wait until you’re bursting at the seams with anger or frustration to tell your lover or your family just how ungrateful they’ve been when you’ve been so giving and sacrificing.
Most people who get taken for granted make the mistake of holding back on communication, until they can’t hold on anymore. And then, they explode with helpless anger one fine day, much to the surprise of their shocked lover who probably didn’t even realize they were taking their partner for granted!