6. You Found an Old Love Letter from His Ex
Whether this was a relationship from high school or a long-term ex from recent years, it’s natural to feel terribly uncomfortable when you’re faced with the fact that he’s loved someone before you. “Part of the natural process of learning to be intimate with someone is pushing aside any feelings we’ve had for anyone else in the past,” says Michael. “But the reality is, those feelings never disappear, they’re instead stored away in the attic of your mind along with all your other past experiences in life.”
If you came across this love note totally by accident, try not to read it (as hard as that may be). Remember that doing so will only wedge a fork in between you. Instead, remind yourself that his past is his past, just like your past is your past, and that your relationship is a new chapter. If it continues to bother you, bring it up politely with your partner, explaining that you came across the letter by accident. If he’s sensitive to your feelings, he can reassure you that you have nothing to worry about.
“Every fall I have at least one or two women in my office talk to me about how much time their man spends watching football instead of them.”
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